In the Spirit of Love

When one has crossed over from a ‘dark’ place, you will realize that time and again this person will find themselves being impatient with those who are still on the other side. I catch myself in this place often.  Thing is coz you have seen the light and are now living in it you don’t quite seem to understand how someone else can still be in the dark (and even seem not to want to get out). Sometimes this is a feeling/attitude geared by love but sometimes it’s geared by a love gone selfish.

(Just for illustrations sake), if I have had challenges keeping my hands off people’s property (petty theft) and with time manage to overcome this, chances are that when I encounter a petty thief I’ll judge them or expect them to be different or expect them to change in a jiffy. Why? coz I no longer see myself as one and therefore think as one free of this vice hence an expectation for this person to think like I do.

I’ll forget that at some point I was him/her. That at some point I was the one struggling to stop this vice…and because this person is not where I am now and is seemingly being slow in getting to where I am at now, I start to resent, disassociate, be restive...etc towards him/her.

I am thus reminded that to love is to give, is to put others before self. That the moment I shift my focus to what the other person is not doing/has not done/is getting wrong, or shift my focus to the hurt/pain or wrong done to me…I have then made it about me and ceased to consider the other person in the spirit of love. 

There is a quote I make effort to remember, “Don’t judge me coz I sin differently than you.”

God give us the grace to be patient with each other and treat each other with grace as we support each other to be better people.

(This doesn’t mean we condone a slackness in attempting to deal with our Achilles or sit back and do nothing while the world rots before our eyes…)

Like Pastor Wa likes to say at the end of his blogs:

Just Sayin….